I used this line on a guy last night and when I got home and googled it, I discovered its from "PS I Love You". How appropriate.
Today, after church, after the VBS lunch, I sat around with some of the youth and we talked about random crap. From colleges to boys and relationships to personal issues.
I'm getting college advice from teens 3 years younger than me. LoL.
Here's something Yoke Pei, Joyce, Grace and I talked about.
I used the words "fall in love" at which I was quickly corrected. It wasnt supposed to be falling in love, its supposed to be 'growing with love' and i REALLY like the sound of that. Growing with love.
Its not supposed to be crushes and infatuation.
Its supposed to be mutual respect, understanding, trust and friendship.
When I get a boyfriend, I dont want some honeymoon period. Thinking about it, thats for people who fall in love. But when you have a relationship that grows naturally, at a slow pace where you get to see each other as they really are, now that would be great.
Audrey tells me, "My friends think I'm being unreasonable and that my criteria for my 'ideal' guy is too high. They say I'm too picky"
But then she tells me, dont we deserve our ideal guy?
No, not the guy who speaks 5 languages, plays 7 instruments and serenades us in spanish. *swoons*
No, the top scholar, most popular guy in school and the captain of the ____ teams.
I gave up on the "my ideal guy" list a long time ago. I thought it was dumb. But when I thought of it Audrey's way, it made sense.
We're talking about the guy I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. Not only that, he's going to be the father of my future children. And that man described in my criteria also makes the man that my children will call Daddy.
Not being willing to compromise doesnt mean I am stubborn or wishful.
Like I dont want a guy who needs tv and is addicted to computer games. I hope for a guy who reads books and novels. I'd like a guy who thinks National Geographic is good tv. And this affects the upbringing of my children.
Imagine me, trying to teach my son to read when his dad is shooting down zombies on the computer in the next room with the speakers on full blast. Yeaaaa.
So yeah, in this aspect, maybe I'm thinking too far. But maybe that's it when it comes to BGR. We dont think far enough.
So you like each other. Are you actually prepared for a relationship? Because if you REALLY truly love that person, you wouldnt get into a relationship just based on feelings. Would you really want to end up hurting the girl/guy you claim to be in love with?
I admit, I thinly veiled threats to my close guy friends when they start ignoring me when I talk about how they should treat girls they like. I bring them back about 6 months to a year ago and ask them, "do you actually want to risk hurting this girl you claim to really like and risk her feeling how I felt/am feeling?"
Threats as it may be, its true.
BGR isnt just about your mutual feelings and "seeing how things turn out". Caring about someone is thinking things through and being able to say things like "we're not ready to be in a relationship" "if we pursue this relationship now, one of us will only end up getting hurt"
You wanna see how things turn out, then stop. Dont. If love is true, if its meant to be~
it's a quarter to three, I sure aint drunk but I need to sleep~
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